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My Husband and I Created a Fun Fund!

Our “Fun Fund”

My husband and I recently created a “Fun Fund”. And the size of this fund is about 39.6% of our current projected/planned annual expenses. This Fun Fund includes the following categories: travel (we’d like to do two international trips and two U.S. trips per year as a family), gifts, charity, wardrobe items, entertainment and dining (e.g., treating others to meals; we’re already allocating $1,000 outside of the Fun Fun each month to spend on groceries and family dining).

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In a previous article, I mentioned that our projected annual expenses for year 2017 (and possibly the near future years, too, at the time of writing) was $50,000. Then, early this month, we’ve decided to move that number back up to $60,000 (our annual expenses in year 2015 and 2016 was $60,000), even though we currently don’t have child care expenses.

With a budget of $50,000, we were allocating about $13,700 toward the categories aforementioned. We’ve (most, I) came to realize such a number was a little over-stretched and won’t bring me much happiness. So, my husband and I looked at our financial numbers again, and we’ve decided that we can spend up to $60,000 a year and still be able to save a lot.

In my husband’s own words: “I feel I’ve lived my 60s while in my 20s, and now I’m living my 30s in my 30s. Maybe I’ll live my 20s while in my 40s!”

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Adopt This One Money Habit to Grow and Attract Wealth

I love free honest money. I was 10 years-old when I found my first $20 bill on a grassy field. That was shortly after my family and I have immigrated to the U.S. With my parents’ combined income being less than $2,000 a month at the time (providing for a family of 4), you can imagine what that $20 bill meant to me. To say I was super excited would be an understatement.

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Are All Free Honest Money Equal?

However, not all free honest money has always been equal for me. I don’t ever recall having picked up a penny off the ground. For some reason, picking pennies just never seemed worth it to me.

As for my husband, while he wouldn’t waste calories to pick up one penny, he’d spend the calories to pick up two plus pennies. And he’d get very excited about this kind of free honest money. Just a few months ago, we even joked that if one million people on earth would be willing to share a penny with us once a year, we’d have $10,000 of free honest money. This is a large sum of money! Even pennies add up to being worth something.

For years, I teased him about this money habit of his. I didn’t appreciate the value of a penny back in the days when I was growing up in a low-income family. At our current financial standing, the value of a penny is worth even less to me. I didn’t understand why my husband bothers to pick up pennies. For a long time, I never asked him.

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Money Habits of a Spender

I Am a Spender

If I have unlimited access to money, I would be doing a lot of shopping—from picking up a croissant (and a scone and a brioche and a slice of bread pudding) at a bakery to browsing on the web to purchasing flight tickets (and fancy lodging) for my next vacation to shopping wardrobe items for my daughter and husband (and my next designer bag). I would be purchasing beautiful furniture pieces (and other home décor items) and putting an offer on our next house (and vacation home).

money habits of a spender

However, I don’t shop just to shop. Shopping in generally (even just the thought of it) is both physically and mentally exhausting for me. When I shop, I shop with a purpose—I shop for the experience (what I can enjoy immediately and what I can enjoy weeks, months and years down the road) and a lifestyle. Emotions draw me in. Show me something pretty or something that smells good (hello, fresh baked goods!), and the money in my wallet is already half way out.

With the combined incomes in my household, I can afford to buy lots of things and services. Yet, if you look at my credit card and checking account statements, I don’t spend much money relative to the income. This is especially true in the past four years. How have I been able to resist the strong urge to spend money during my adult years thus far?

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Connection Between Savings Rates and Years to Reaching Financial Independence

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In this post I discuss the connection between savings rates and years to achieving financial independence. I use my family’s financial situation as an example to illustrate this powerful connection. By the end of having read this post (and the previous one), I hope you’ll be inspired by our story and begin to adopt a similar mindset (a.k.a. financial independence thinking). This post is a follow up on a previous conversation, Create and Live by Your Own Financial Rules. If you haven’t read the post, I recommend reading it first to get a better idea of what I’m about to share here.

Update:

I shared few more financial numbers since I published this article. The first one is on applying the 4% withdrawal rule and the second one is on our estimated (updated) annual expenses.

Saving Aggressively Toward a Financial Goal without Having a Financial Plan

It wasn’t until the middle of 2016 that my husband and I became aware of the financial independence movement. Knowing what we know now, we both have been living our lives by that camp of thought; we just didn’t know.

Very early on in our marriage (we got married in 2010) we casually discussed about early retirement, but we didn’t have a concrete financial plan. We didn’t have a budget or track our expenses. However, we were tracking our net worth.

In some ways we were big spenders. We dined at $$ restaurants every weekend and took five to six weeks of vacations each year (including trips to Western Europe). We also spent a lot of money on groceries. We tried to eat organic food whenever possible (this has been a high priority in our household since year 2011).

In other ways, we were extremely frugal. We made our lunches during the week. We did price comparisons when we shopped. In 2009, I was driving a 1985 Honda Civic. My husband was driving the same model that was made in 1995. We didn’t care for having the latest gadgets. My husband didn’t have a phone data plan until year 2013! I got mine in December 2012.

On average, we saved 60 to 70 percent of our net income. Our financial goal has always been to retire early and travel around the world. However, we didn’t know how much money we would need. We also didn’t bother with doing the math. Somehow, we knew we would just get there, way before we turn 65. We knew about passive income but we weren’t maximizing our investment potentials. We felt like we had a lot of time allowing our net worth to grow organically (with some, but not much efforts).

From year 2008 to 2011, our combined income was under $110,000. While my graduate fellowship covered my tuition and other educational expenses and provided health insurance coverage, the stipend was just enough to pay for basic living expenses. It was only in 2012 that I started contributing to our retirement savings. That was also around the time when we moved to San Francisco. While our combined incomes jumped, our expenses also went up.

One day in year 2013, my husband and I resumed our early retirement talk. We projected we would be able to reach our financial independence number and retire from our day jobs in our early 50s. But, there was still no concrete plan. In year 2014, we changed our retirement target age to mid-40s. We realized that if we would to work until our early 50s we might not be dipping into our retirement savings at all. We would have worked for too long! With that realization, we said to each other, “Why not stop working earlier?” At the time we thought we would need about $3 to $4 million in net worth in order to retire early (living in San Francisco inflated our $ target). But really, that was just a random number we came up with. Forwarded to year 2015, we still didn’t have a concrete financial plan to reach our financial goal. We just continued to save aggressively and kept seeing our net worth go up.

We Found Our Roadmap to Early Retirement

Then, around middle of 2016 we learned about the financial independence online community and we became enlightened. For the first time we felt like we’ve found the roadmap to early retirement! Ever since then, we’ve spent hours calculating our numbers, reallocating and rebalancing our investment portfolio, optimizing our lifestyle and started talking in details about life during early retirement. I will talk more about this roadmap in a future post.

Our financial independence (FI) goal is to save 33X our annual expenses. Our current monthly expenses are about $5,000. About 35% of that goes to childcare. It’s a big splurge for us, but totally worth the money. We value being able to go the gym together every Sunday morning and going out for jogs few evenings throughout the week. We value not having to wake up in the early morning and having to get our daughter out the door to go to daycare. She’s usually still asleep when we leave for work. Nowadays, with the higher cost of living and raising a child, we’re saving about 50% of our net income. 

Once we leave our 9-5 jobs, we will no longer be paying for child care. This would drastically drop our annual expenses down to $50,000 or less. Through the financial independence community, we learned that if we choose to live the lifestyle similar to many of the early retirees we will reach financial independence while in our early 30s (this is our average age; my husband is 5 years older than I am). If we want to continue living our current lifestyle into early retirement, then we’re looking at doing that while in our mid 30s (before year 2020). After some number crunches on the calculator, we should be able to reach our financial independence number by year 2018. 

I encourage you to read Mr. MM’s article on the math behind early retirement. At our savings rate of 50 to 70% over the last 8 years, the math says that it would take us about 12 years (I took the average) to become financial independent. However, the number of years is less for us. My husband started saving and investing years before we met. 

Some Final Thoughts

For years, my husband and I knew that early retirement is possible for us, but we didn’t know how to get there or when we would reach that point. And if we would to arrive, what it would take so that we can stay there? All these questions and more became clear to us once we started reading about some of the stories of early retirees.

It’s important to keep in mind that the financial independence community only provided my husband and I with the last piece of the roadmap helping us plan for early retirement. If we had not been saving aggressively in the past 8 years, we would be nowhere close to achieving FI.

Yes, adopting this community’s mindset toward living one’s life does give you an advantage as a starting point. At the same time, you need to do the homework and put in the effort, too. My husband and I have been doing this for the last eight years. I’m sure if you ask any early retirees who are self-made millionaires, they’d tell you that they did not reach FI by being average or using shortcuts.

As I stated in the previous post, if you are thinking about pursuing financial independence, you need to adopt radical ways of thinking, and live your life accordingly. Don’t just blindly follow the shortcuts just because they are easy. Always do your research, do your math and get into the habit asking yourself, “How can I do better?”. Come up with your own set of financial rules that work for your situation and make sure those rules align with your short- and long-term financial goals and values. Be open to revising the rules once you find them too comfortable. Be radical with your way of thinking (not just in money terms, but your values, too), your creativity and money strategies (e.g., How are you managing your money? How can you do a little better?). You don’t have to follow the conventional path if being average is not what you want.

Readers, prior to having read this post (and my previous one), were you aware of the connection between savings rates and years to reaching financial independence?

How do you approach your savings rate? Do you have to work hard at meeting that goal?

What do you think about Mr. MM’s math concepts behind early retirement? I would love to hear from you at the comment section below.


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A Woman’s Financial Responsibilities in Her Household: Part II

In Part II of A Woman’s Financial Responsibilities in Her Household, I discuss some of the barriers women face on our way to become financially literate, and how the men (e.g., husbands, fathers, grandfathers, brothers, friends) in our lives can help. In part I, I discussed some gender generalizations regarding how money responsibilities are handled in a typical household and shared some intropsection I have regarding my situation during the earlier years of my marriage. 

Women and Financial Responsibilities

Women are eager for information about financial planning and investing. In the 2014-2015 Prudential Study, Financial Experience & Behaviors Among Women, 18% of the women surveyed (survey polled 1,407 American women between ages of 25 and 68) said they would like to be more involved in financial decisions that affect them and their households. As another example, Fidelity Investments (Money Fit Women Study, 2015) found 92% of surveyed women (total respondents = 1,542 women ages 18+) wanted to learn more about financial planning, 75% wanted to learn more about money and investing and 83% wanted to get more involved in their finances within the next year. Yet, despite these statistics demonstrating women wanting to get more engaged with our finances, many of us exhibit a great amount of discomfort with our abilities to make wise financial decisions. We’re more confident in the ability of our spouses/partners to assume full financial responsibilities of long-term financial planning than our own.

Barriers to Women’s Financial Competence

Let’s take a look at some of the reasons women in general feel unprepared or not confident making financial decisions.

Fidelity Investments 2015 Money Fit study:

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2014-2015 Prudential study on Financial Experience & Behaviors Among Women:

women lack financial confidence

 

In sum, the barriers to women’s financial competence tend to fall under the six following categories: (1) lack time, (2) lack financial knowledge, (3) lack trust of the financial industry, (4) lack confidence, (5) lack hands on experience managing money and (6) lack support from spouse. Not surprisingly, few of these barriers are related.

If we can break two or more of these barriers the success rate to increase financial literacy among women is likely to go up. For instance, a woman with a spouse who fully supports her to pursue financial literacy is likely to have more time learning about personal finance and financial planning. The husband would be more likely to take over more household chores so that the wife can pursue her interest. As the woman begins to learn financial literacy, she will learn to read and speak the financial language. In the process doing so, she will learn about the different financial services and products.

As she’s learning she will likely discuss her newly acquired knowledge with her family members and friends. When it’s time to hire a finance professional, this woman will have been well equipped with the knowledge and skills to articulate what she wants and needs, and able to distinguish for herself good and bad professionals. This scenario is my ideal. The steps don’t have to go in this particular order. The information presented here is for you to play around with, and find out what’s best for your situation.

You may ask, where does one begin to seek out information to improve one’s financial literacy? I suggest you follow my blog and my social media, and also check out my Resources page. The Resource page is a work in progress and I update relevant materials.

Men Promoting Women’s Financial Literacy

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